Or: How Accepting Struggle Can Make Your Relationship Much Easier.
“Lovers know what they want, but not what they need.”
Publilius Syrus, Moral Sayings.
Everyone struggles with relationship. Struggle and suffering
are an integral part of being a couple. This is the first truth of love.
That is so even in the paradises-on-earth that are called Marin and
If you are just beginning a couple relationship, you and
your partner hopefully enjoy respect, kindness, generosity, a
sharing of intimacy that is both verbal and physical, a spirit of
discovery, passionate mutual interest, and altogether a great
aliveness. Hopefully, you and your partner share conversations
from the heart about your fears and dreams, a heated sexuality,
and leisure and social activities in common, whether they be
cooking, dancing, gardening, or reading together. For most of us,
passion and connection are relatively easy in the beginning
because the obstacles from the bottom of our psychological sea
have yet to surface.